Oh what shatters my heart like one throwing a dagger from afar
Are the words so heavy stomping the ground in thunders
That which sours thought and angers mood
No matter how good one seems to sway
In split seconds the actions weighed
As all is loosed in Hell’s Way.
The words deep as a stray bullet
Wounding the heart, corrupting the brain,
Seeking to revenge without gathering facts
Those words glaring the conscience without peering through thinking
The battle to retort, give back and dash back is ever in mind
To repair the betrayed emotion, the wounded ego and its personal pride.
“Eh hen, na so e dey take behave, e no sabi anything?”;
‘Yes, he should be removed, shameless man of no reputation’;
Even if I go dey there I no fit try am, see simple test wey hin fail;
These are words that go unnoticed but screams with a mediocre cry
Are the daily actions, expressions and thoughts of every Nigerian Man and Woman.
Most times one never seem to check the way words are being addressed to. In discussions, dialogue, training and correcting one, a sentimental approach is used and it is so clear no matter how swift or raw its impact maybe. This has gradually become a norm in the psyche of any average Nigerian within any extent you may want to take it to: be it across Academicians, Social status, Backgrounds, Religion, Culture and any categorized factor.
Sentimentality in a simple term is originally indicated the reliance on feelings as a guide to truth, but current usage defines it as an appeal to shallow, uncomplicated emotions at the expense of reason. This is from Wikipedia. Going by this one may become indifferent. But from Vocabulary.com, Sentimentality is if he or she is led more by emotions than by reason. It is obvious people across different backgrounds as long as they have life can be sentimental but the argument is: To what extent or degree. When compared to the other race, nationality and philosophy of the person, there seems to be some similarities and/or differences that necessitates change of the individual in check. Thus departing from the broader scope of person, the intention is to measure the sentimentality amongst Nigerians.
In Nigeria Today, it is almost inadmissible to remove sentimentality, as each one is engaged on how their “Feelings” to this article is rated on it, in the average minds, speeches, actions and behavior of man. It is to some extent forming the psyche of the person owing to certain factors which shall be discovered and explained. To those who happened to defeat being sentimental, they become Sentimental by Criticism. This is to say such a person cannot let a matter or opinion go without criticizing it. Thus whatever is expressed is either with feelings or reasoning Sentimental Free or Criticism Free(that is if this has not been rated already) and there is no need highlighting examples for you and I have loads of encounters and experiences.
Sentimental dispositions affecting the Nigerian Man or Woman today span from and could be any or more of the following:
Beliefs(as categorized to be faith, Religion, etc.)
Academic Factor(comprising of Disciplines, Scholarly status, etc.)
Nature of Environment.
Politics(as categorized as the Polity, Government and its like)
Status: This can be classified into the source of wealth, affluence, power and control the person have deemed in his or her person. It could spread across the rich, middle-class and poor. Most times such is obvious in the way the discussion is ensued or expressed from the person to another. Thus the first of the noticeable discovery of sentimentality is through this factor before it cuts across other factors below.
Culture: This cuts across the majority and minority tribes as it dissolves down to the most difficult or easily spoken kinds, Strange and funny ones; Nearest and furthest; most stereotypic and less stereotypic kinds(all culture has a tone of stereotype, be it Nigerian or Abroad); the kinds that supports freedom to that which restricts; the most biased or less biased(if any); the most practicable and less practicable kinds, …. the list goes on and on.
Psychological Make-Up: This spans across a broad and wide list of checklist that detects the ego, self-worth or self-esteem, mode of carriage, attitude, etc. To the methods one uses in developing which comprises the Processes and techniques one sets up in the formation: be it academic, philosophic, cognitive, spiritual, social emotional, etc. To the way such persons sees and relates what is outside his/her person. This factor is the simple but easily neglected item one truly considers before setting the other factors aright.
Beliefs: The consideration of Nature and Understanding between the self,God and the other person, the kind or place of worship, the interaction that may lead to lack of idea or superfluous information to the religion, the degree of the nature of worship on the person, the degree of faith in the person, the level of What to learn and What to Drop across the other factors that would lead to Sentimentality. Ironically, most Nigerians tend to defend beliefs which could be interests, opinions, ideas, propaganda as well as make it the first amongst equal to relate with. This is to mean that this stands to equate the status of Wealth of the person from his or her mien. This is so wrong for the understanding of the person should be prominent and be used as tool to associate rather than Beliefs. Moreover, Such prominent attention should be the Family and Psychological Make-up of the person.
Academic Factor: This states the School or the level of scholarly experience gained: be it Professor Emeritus, Professor, Associate Professor, Doctor(Ph.D.), Masters, Bachelors, Polytechnic Awards, First Class, Second Class Upper /Lower, Third Class, Pass, Secondary School Leaving Certificate( otherwise known as Waec or Neco, or Junior Waec), Primary School Leaving Certificate, Drop out, Illiterates, etc. Either of this is used to make or mar the Person. It thus goes on to show the degree of the Awards gotten either across one, several and Multi-related Disciplines. Other Awards gotten are from Projects, Reports and Seminars etc. Thus it is interesting to note that the level of Academic wield of a person varies and may be more or less significant across Literates and/or Illiterates divides .
Peer Influence: This is the level of interaction one has with his age groups and other age groups irrespective of the person and the factor considered. It also detects the level of control on or over the person.
Family: Another Complex, Prominent if not the most Important and also a factor that is ignorantly observed in the terms of a proper development of the person as in terms of Sentimentality. This is the nucleus of which the highlighted factors are gravely seasoned to produce a properly developed, or mediocrity shaped or poorly and carefree turnout of the person. It cuts across all sizes, manners, degree of sentimental and non-sentimental state in the formation of the person towards his or her parents and siblings before displaying such to the extended family. Thus if properly formed, the person ought to see the strengths and weaknesses of its person across the family divides and spoils.
Media: This describes the output of the Print(Magazines, Newspapers, Books, etc.), Audio, Visual and Telecommunication(Use of Phones, Fax, Technology) source of information. It does not to the lowest export of detail the opinion of one but the totality of all. Thus it detects one’s ideas expressed as all as it splits to the number of persons co-joined, and that of the Media(one or whole)Reaction(s).
Nature of Environment: This expresses the explosion of all factors and its struggle to select its unifying as well as dividing force in the formation of the self and Sentimentality.
Politics: This describes the affairs of the territory or the Government in the psyche and development of the self. It thus expresses the influence as to the Successes, Pitfalls and Challenges of the Polity of the Government and how it affects the Nature of Environment and the person towards Sentimentality. This is to say as Government, makes up the different classes and factors of people, it is affected by sentimentality as to the Person itself no matter if such single or plural in person. Government here describes the Political Party, the kind and type of Government it runs( be it Democracy, Oligarchy, Fascism, Communism, etc.) The Number of Party it has, the arms of Government: Legislative(and subcategorized to its likes), Executive(and subcategorized to its likes), Judiciary(and subcategorized to its likes).
Thus the emphasis by which Sentimentality takes effect is the Government and the Person.
In all of these, one can use the above measures to know where he or she stands. True, it could be low or high (either from the rate one perceives in undergoing this or the rate of the article itself) but what is known is no matter the “what”, the “who”, “how”, or the “where”, one can gain a healthy sentimental ground if such renews the change in the person itself and the change in the factors underscored consistently and simultaneously.